User Stories

User stories have been collected via our survey and are only published on our site when we’re given explicit permission by users, including whether or not we are permitted to publish their name and location (many prefer to be anonymous). They are lightly edited for clarity or readability. Note that category tags are for easy searchability only and may not be exhaustive.

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User Story: Lady Soliloque

My name is Lady Soliloque. I am a Southern Lady, author and geek. My name is not just a pen name, it is a registered and trademarked name under which I am known, and it is recognized by the US Government, the legal system, the financial system,  my state, my…

User Story: Anonymous

A guy using a fake name was harassing me via Facebook, private messaging nasty things to people on my friends list—including outing me as HIV positive and sending x-rated photos of me—and even targeting where I work on my company’s official Facebook page.  He threatened a “hashtag campaign” against my…

User Story: Anonymous

I haven’t been reported yet. But my activism for social issues (anti-racism, LGBTQ equality, etc.) has cost me job offers, got me fired once and I receive regular threats from individuals and organisations on Facebook who openly post swastikas and other hate speech on their profiles. Reporting them is nigh…

User Story: Blu Parlet

My Facebook user name was the name that I have used for over 20 years. My nickname was the name, is the name, that rings true for me. Everyone, including college professors used that name. Facebook decided this was not me, not the name my family and friend have called…

User Story: Anonymous

I am a transgender person who has gone through a few periods of testing names out to see if they fit, and ultimately deciding on the nickname my mother gave me when I was a toddler and the last name I was born with. I have relatives that I am…

User Story: Anonymous

I worked stealth [not “out”] at a physical labour job for over six years. It was a verbally and sometimes physically abusive environment. Despite passing for straight and cisgender, I still dealt constantly with bullying and ostracism. Having to use my real name online would have risked having my politics,…

User Story: Bladerunner

The name I used to use on Facebook was a name I used everywhere online for many years. I used it on Facebook so my online friends could find me. I also used my nickname because I work in Special Ed with a number of fragile families who don’t need to…

User Story: Anonymous

My given name is uncommon enough to make it extremely easy to find me on social media. I prefer to keep a low online profile, as a lesbian working in a non-traditional career (I am an electrician). Sometimes working big construction jobs is like having 500 older brothers who all love…

User Story: Anonymous

I am the victim of kidnapping and sexual assault. My case has been caught in the judicial system for 10 years. My abuser has found me on Facebook and messaged me under fake accounts. Why should I be isolated from friends and family, and punished by Facebook because I am…

User Stories: Boogie

I was adopted when I was 9 years old against my wishes. My name was changed without my permission or input. I refuse to use the adoptive name given to me on any public forum or social media page due to the fact that I had an abusive step father…

User Story: Anonymous

My screen name since 2010 when I joined Facebook has been Xxx Xxxxx. It’s based on a nickname and my husband’s business name (which is part of my email address). I had tried other names, but they were rejected. However, I was not going to use my real name and…

User Story: Anonymous

I had my account associated with my leather title blocked. For the last 13+ years I have gone by a particular name within the leather community. I continued to use that name when I won first a local then an international title. This is the name my mother and wife…

User Story: Mythical Man

When I received the same ‘authentic name’ message from Facebook, I informed them that I am a victim of abuse, that I would not be providing them with my information, and asked them to delete my account.  I received an e-mail from Facebook, saying that my account has been deleted,…

User Story: Anonymous

I don’t know why my name was reported, or even why, but it happened after some transphobic, misogynistic, Islamophobic users were banned from a gaming group I was the admin of. My account was for my family and friends with no “public” contact at all outside of a game group….

User Story: Paint

I am non-binary trans and Paint is my chosen name that I have been going by for about a year. As it was, I couldn’t even have Paint set as my name so my account was Pa Aint.  I am currently trying to reactivate my account with my “deadname” so…

User Story: Anonymous

I am a transgender male and haven’t legally been able to change my name yet as it is a process. I’ve explained this to Facebook and they never granted me access to my profile after that. They wanted a legal ID with that name on it. —Anonymous Dallas, TX

User Story: Joe Virus

I am Joe Virus. I was born Joe _______ 42 years ago, but I have been going by Joe Virus and just VIRUS for the past 20 years in my everyday life. I was a radio show host and I am a resident DJ at the longest running goth/industrial nightclub in…

User Story: Anonymous

I’m a therapist who works with young adults who have serious mental illness. Some of the youth that I work with are involved in local gangs and have violent histories. Some are just overly fascinated with the therapists and social workers that are involved in their lives. I work with…

User Story: Anonymous

I was raised by parents who were both addicts. I survived a childhood full of physical and sexual abuse and spent many years with them dragging me all over the country hiding. As a grown woman I created a community and new family based solely around the person I had…

User Story: Anonymous

The use of a stage name is often a safety issue. I’ve been a professional belly dancer for 10 years, and during that time, I’ve had a man who used to make repeated inappropriate late night calls to my home phone, a woman I met once who imagined a deep…

User Story: Tea

I am a 62 year old transgender woman. I own a bicycle shop that I opened in 1975. I came out of the closet at 55 years old and call it living my missed youth, at 58 I began performing burlesque. #MyNameIs helped me continue to use burlesque to support respect…

User Story: Ballistic Whistle

My name is Ballistic Whistle and I coach Roller Derby in London, UK. The Roller Derby community is a hugely diverse community worldwide, often with participants adopting aliases. These can adopted for numerous reasons. Some simply have daytime jobs whereby using their real name in roller derby is not an…

User Story: Mone’t Ha-Sidi

My name is Mone’t Ha-Sidi. I have been a Facebook user since 2009, I have always used my legal name, never a nickname or anything else. I am a hairstylist and burlesque performer—since my name is is unique I don’t use an alias. Most people think it’s a chosen name, except people…

User Story: Ginger Slap

I am professional burlesque performer. I love sharing soul on stage with my audience, and even my crazy sexual side. But I don’t want stalkers tracking me down. It can be scary sometimes. Having someone you don’t know show up on your door step is an unwanted experience. But the…

User Story: Anonymous

I have PTSD. As a child, I used to get beaten by my mother until I was afraid for my life. My name now is an attempt to break from the person I was then, as well as avoid my mother and other family members. When Facebook said the name…

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